There’s an unspoken rule for eldest daughters in many Indian families: carry everything, expect nothing, and never put yourself first. I followed it for years. Until I turned thirty —single, steady, and finally choosing my own joy—and realised something quietly...
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to be understanding.It’s a word I’ve heard all my life — often as a compliment.“She’s so understanding,” people would say, as if it were the gold standard of being a “good” person. And I am understanding. I try to...
For countless families around the world, the eldest daughter often holds a unique and often unspoken position. She’s frequently the “responsible one,” the “mini-parent,” and the perceived pillar of strength. But what does it really...
Setting boundaries is a vital skill that many people struggle to develop, especially when it comes to family or close relationships. Boundaries help define what is acceptable for us, preserving our emotional health, peace, and personal space. We come across difficult...
Be warned: Long post ahead… Growing up as the eldest daughter is more than a thing of pride, plus I was also the only child for 12.5yrs before my sister came along. It often comes with a legacy of unspoken responsibilities, a mantle that falls on you, whether...
