There have been days when I felt very Blah.. But then i didnt really know why I was feeling that way and then it hit me- I was going through a bit if a dragged on phase on the personal front.
If you are going through something similar, maybe feeling stagnated in your personal life- just remember it is more common than you might think — and it usually signals that something inside you is ready for change or growth. Here are some practical, reflective, and gentle things you can do to navigate that feeling:
✨ 1. Pause and reflect
Instead of rushing to “fix” the stagnation, ask yourself:
- What specifically feels stagnant? (Is it your daily routine, your relationships, your sense of purpose?)
- When did this feeling begin?
Sometimes writing in a journal, mind-mapping, or even voice-noting your thoughts can help clarify what’s really missing or stuck..There i was, recovering from the injury, unable to do much around the house or even things that were “routine”, things as basic as getting up with ease off the bed, making breakfast, playing with chewy, or just standing in the balcony for more than a few seconds.. It hurt, and it confused me a lot. It also got me spiralling inside, if this was what life ahead was going to be like.. I knew I had to shake things up..
2. Refresh your routine
Even small changes — taking a new route to work, trying a new recipe, starting your day differently — can disrupt the autopilot feeling. These micro-shifts often spark new energy. I began walking, even if only few steps inside the house, we had a chair in the balcony which I used to rest if i felt tired standing.
3. Learn or explore something new
Take up a hobby or course unrelated to work. This could be painting, gardening, music, a language, or volunteering. New skills can open up fresh perspectives and connections. I missed the daily walks with Chewy, and playing around then house. I looked up Tai chi cos I knew other forms of workout wasnt going to be easy.. Discovered a few Youtube videos around this and that has been a saviour of sorts.
4. Tend to your inner world
Meditation, therapy, or coaching can help explore deeper questions: Am I avoiding something? Is there a longing I haven’t acknowledged? Sometimes stagnation is the surface symptom of something more internal. This was a big one.. I was battling this silent battle with myself, so many questions, doubts and sometimes there were even moments of feeling guilty for putting P through all this. But then,I also sent a silent word of gratitude every single day for bringing him into my life- he was such a support, and pillar for me during those painful months… I never thought I was weak – physically or mentally, but when you have someone there for you, you are ok to let down your guard and be vulnerable..
5. Reconnect and reach out
Spend time with people who inspire you or make you feel alive. Attend workshops, meetups, or community events. New social energy can bring unexpected insights and opportunities. Yes, I reconnected with friends, the ones who’d been my support line during the entire process, and even managed to meet a few along the way, which gave me the confidence to continue on the path to recovery.
6. Set small, meaningful goals
They don’t have to be big — even “read for 10 minutes daily,” “cook one new dish a week,” or “go for a walk without my phone.” Progress, even if tiny, can break the stagnation loop. I took up short challenges, included cooking into the routine, taking Chewy for a walk downstairs wearing those airboots or some nights I hired a cab and took him for a spin, he needed to get out of the house as well [ this was when P was away in Bombay or at the hospital down with Dengue]
7. Revisit your bigger picture
What matters most to you now? Sometimes our life has changed internally, but our outer choices haven’t caught up. Reflect on what you truly value today versus five years ago.Oh yes, this helps~~
8. Be gentle with yourself
This was the toughest but most needed.. Stagnation isn’t always a problem to solve; sometimes it’s a natural pause before the next season of growth.
Here’s more power to me and all the othes going through a similar phase~ Remember, you are NOT alone..
